Introduction to the Calling/Exploration Category

Calling is the earliest stage in the building process when the feeling stirs that creating a structure could be desirable and possible.  It corresponds in the vision of The Golden Room to the sense that something is about to happen, a heightened awareness, an attentive listening for guidance.

It could also be the sense that something must happen, as many of us feel in the world today.  We are waiting and watching as that something begins to emerge and grow clear.

The EVOKE Life Planning process “Exploration” stage is extremely powerful in the hands of a skilled Registered Life Planner.  It helps us discern callings that may have been hidden from us or that we may have discounted as impossible dreams.

The posts in this section will explore the topics of callings and discernment as well as Exploration, both for Life Planners and for anyone seeking their own calling for this stage of their life.

Still More Introduction: Finding Your Way Around This Website

This is the third in a series of essential introductions to this website. One explains its structural use of metaphors, and another describes the vision of the Golden Room that forms one of those metaphors.

This third introduction explains how to find your way around.

First, starting with the basics, there is a magnifying glass at the top of each page.  Click on it and you can search by words or phrases and find all the pages and posts where those words appear.

Second, there are “share” and “print” buttons at the bottom of each page, and you may make comments as well on any post.  (This website is just getting started, so any sharing you do is most appreciated!)

Third, click the three bars at the top of each page to find a drop-down menu. (To make the menu disappear, click the X in the upper right corner.)  You will find there a list of pages, categories and tags.  They should help you find the kinds of pieces that will interest you.  For instance, the menu allows you to click on “Life Planning” and find related posts, or if you want to read more about “Mindfulness” or “Saving the World,” you can click on those words in the Tag Cloud.

Some of the menu items are self-explanatory.  The “Welcome” page contains a brief welcome.  “Recent Posts” contains a string of posts that you can scroll down.  “Introduction” offers three orientations to the content and structure of the site, including this one.  “About” has information about the creator and author of this website, Thomas Cary Kinder.

The menu gives you the opportunity to “Follow” the website, receiving email notifications of new posts as they are published.  Below that you will see a list of the most recent several posts, and at the very bottom is a Tag Cloud—by clicking on the words or phrases in that jumble you can find all the posts that are related to that topic.  The bigger the Tag title, the more pieces you will find there.

The middle section of the content menu needs some explaining.  From “Calling/Exploration” to “Returning/Aloha” are category titles where almost all the posts get filed.   Click on the menu items with those names and you will find related pieces collected there.

The first word in each category heading refers to the building process, as in building a material cabin or a spiritual Golden Room (clearing, digging, building etc.).  See the Introduction about the use of metaphors for more explanation.

The second word in each category heading is taken from Life Planning as developed by the creative and practical genius of my brother George Kinder, with the added experience of hundreds of Registered Life Planners.  Exploration, Vision, Obstacles, Knowledge and Execution are the five steps in the EVOKE Life Planning Process.  Understanding and Aloha are two of the Seven Stages of Money Maturity.  Understanding is the central, pivotal stage that brings the possibility of living with freedom and integrity, and Aloha is the final, highest stage of fulfilling our callings with generous-hearted living.

It is easy to see where posts relating to the steps of EVOKE go, and Understanding and Aloha.  You can find posts related to the other five of the Seven Stages by clicking on their Tags in the Tag Cloud.

You can read a brief introduction to each of these categories by clicking on their title below to give you an idea of the kinds of pieces you will find there:

Calling/Exploration

Siting/Vision

Clearing/Obstacles

Digging/Knowledge

Building/Execution

Dwelling/Understanding

Returning/Aloha

The Calling to the Golden Room

Sometimes it takes many calls to convince us of a calling.  The Hebrew judge and prophet, Samuel, needed three callings and the help of old, wise Eli to work through his confusion.  Jonah needed God’s voice, a storm at sea and the belly of the whale to overcome his resistance.

The Rev. Samuel Schaal, a Unitarian Universalist minister from Texas, approached me at a Life Planning workshop in the fall of 2011 where I had shared the vision of the Golden Room.  He asked me if I would write it down for him, because he felt it could be useful for others.  It was just one more in a long series of calls spanning two decades, but it was the one that finally convinced me that I had a calling to bring this project to life.

It came along with a growing sense of urgency.

Photograph by Lesley Wellman

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