Introduction to the Returning/Aloha Category

This is the most important stage of the journey.  It cannot happen without all the other stages, but this is the reason why we have sought and built the Golden Room into our lives.  The purpose is not for us to feel the bliss of being there.  The purpose, as the vision showed, is to take what we find within and deliver it to the world.

An essential part of dwelling in the Golden Room is returning to the world, living not just in our heart’s core but from it, in order to serve with whatever gifts we find there.  Usually a Life Plan contributes gifts to others, whether to family, our workplace, our local community or the wider world, even if the plan is to sail solo around the world or enter a monastery.  There is almost always sooner or later a gain for others in our fulfilling our Golden Room life.  The calling in our deepest, truest core comes from the universe that created us and is not for ourselves alone.

We return to the world, and then return to the Golden Room and then return to the world again, until that cycle of returning is resolved in the highest nondual or integral developmental stage of consciousness, when we see that the universe and the Golden Room are one and we do not need to return because we are always at home wherever we go and whatever we do.

We will not have reached the truest, deepest core of the Golden Room until we have attained this universalizing stage of oneness with all creation.  The heart’s core gives rise to a self-giving, unconditional, all-forgiving, universal love that does not differentiate between worthy or unworthy or friend or foe or this recipient or that, but loves for the sake of loving.

No matter how partial the love we find within, our task is to return with even the smallest sliver of its golden light and deliver our gifts to the part of our world where we find they are needed.

“Aloha” is where George Kinder’s Seven Stages ultimately lead.  The meaning of Aloha is far more than hello or goodbye.  It is a personal quality of generous-hearted lovingkindness.  It takes simple joy in bestowing gifts to the world, whether random spontaneous acts or larger life works.

Aloha is a returning of blessings to others out of the knowledge and gratitude that we have been blessed by the universe to have this time on earth.  It has nothing to do with a sense of obligation or self-esteem, and it may not be true Aloha if we have not mastered some degree of the Understanding Stage.  True Aloha rises naturally from the heart.  It blossoms when we attain freedom from inner obstacles that block us from the integrity of living in, from and for our Golden Room, the way a hyacinth blossoms after struggling up from its buried bulb through the dark earth, at last releasing its inner truth of sweet scent and beautiful hue.

Still More Introduction: Finding Your Way Around This Website

This is the third in a series of essential introductions to this website. One explains its structural use of metaphors, and another describes the vision of the Golden Room that forms one of those metaphors.

This third introduction explains how to find your way around.

First, starting with the basics, there is a magnifying glass at the top of each page.  Click on it and you can search by words or phrases and find all the pages and posts where those words appear.

Second, there are “share” and “print” buttons at the bottom of each page, and you may make comments as well on any post.  (This website is just getting started, so any sharing you do is most appreciated!)

Third, click the three bars at the top of each page to find a drop-down menu. (To make the menu disappear, click the X in the upper right corner.)  You will find there a list of pages, categories and tags.  They should help you find the kinds of pieces that will interest you.  For instance, the menu allows you to click on “Life Planning” and find related posts, or if you want to read more about “Mindfulness” or “Saving the World,” you can click on those words in the Tag Cloud.

Some of the menu items are self-explanatory.  The “Welcome” page contains a brief welcome.  “Recent Posts” contains a string of posts that you can scroll down.  “Introduction” offers three orientations to the content and structure of the site, including this one.  “About” has information about the creator and author of this website, Thomas Cary Kinder.

The menu gives you the opportunity to “Follow” the website, receiving email notifications of new posts as they are published.  Below that you will see a list of the most recent several posts, and at the very bottom is a Tag Cloud—by clicking on the words or phrases in that jumble you can find all the posts that are related to that topic.  The bigger the Tag title, the more pieces you will find there.

The middle section of the content menu needs some explaining.  From “Calling/Exploration” to “Returning/Aloha” are category titles where almost all the posts get filed.   Click on the menu items with those names and you will find related pieces collected there.

The first word in each category heading refers to the building process, as in building a material cabin or a spiritual Golden Room (clearing, digging, building etc.).  See the Introduction about the use of metaphors for more explanation.

The second word in each category heading is taken from Life Planning as developed by the creative and practical genius of my brother George Kinder, with the added experience of hundreds of Registered Life Planners.  Exploration, Vision, Obstacles, Knowledge and Execution are the five steps in the EVOKE Life Planning Process.  Understanding and Aloha are two of the Seven Stages of Money Maturity.  Understanding is the central, pivotal stage that brings the possibility of living with freedom and integrity, and Aloha is the final, highest stage of fulfilling our callings with generous-hearted living.

It is easy to see where posts relating to the steps of EVOKE go, and Understanding and Aloha.  You can find posts related to the other five of the Seven Stages by clicking on their Tags in the Tag Cloud.

You can read a brief introduction to each of these categories by clicking on their title below to give you an idea of the kinds of pieces you will find there:

Calling/Exploration

Siting/Vision

Clearing/Obstacles

Digging/Knowledge

Building/Execution

Dwelling/Understanding

Returning/Aloha

Make an Opening

You may not be able to see it.  You may not be able to feel it.  You may see and feel in yourself only the old, splintery, knotty, worn out barn board that is all that remains of the fertile young farm you once were.

But make an opening, and if you cannot make one, wait patiently for a knot to loosen and drop and leave a hole, and see what happens.

Trust that the Golden Room is down there, waiting, eager to send forth what you were born to share and shine.  It will always return if we give it room.  Watch and wait and pray, and miracles can happen, a green spark can rise in people who have been lost in the darkness, people who feel useless, people who are dying and almost dead.  It is why we are here every minute that we are here.  It is never too late, because the Golden Room is who we are and always will be.

What do you need to do to let a new green shoot rise through you?